I started INFJ Blog as a way to offer resources, advice, and relatable content for people who identify as an INFJ personality type. I also wanted to address certain topics more thoroughly than I’m able to on my INFJ Twitter and Tumblr accounts. But even as I sit here writing these words, my mind is full of doubt. Who am I to offer advice for INFJs?
Dealing with INFJ doubt is something I’ve struggled with my entire life. But what is it that causes INFJ doubt? I think about the other INFJs I know and realize that INFJ doubt is something that many of them struggle with as well. There are so many wonderful qualities that INFJs possess, so then why are we always in constant battle with ourselves?
There are a few things that cause INFJ doubt, and learning to both accept and work through these things is important when it comes to reaching our full potential as INFJ personality types.
INFJ personality types are idealists. We see the world not as it is, but as it should be. Because of this, we have high expectations for ourselves and others. Everything we do needs to have a deeper meaning. This idealism causes INFJs to doubt ourselves regularly. Are we really doing all that we can to make a difference? If we make a decision for ourselves is that being selfish? Should we consider the opinions of others more? Because INFJs see the world in shades of gray rather than black and white, outside opinions weigh heavily on our shoulders. So we spend a lot of time looking at something from every perspective instead of following our intuition, which is usually right, to begin with.
INFJs value authenticity and it’s important for us to seem genuine. Because of this value, we can get hurt anytime anyone accuses us of being fake or having secret intentions. When we’re trying to make a decision we ask ourselves, ¨By making this choice am I really being true to myself?¨ For example, if an INFJ has dreams of becoming an actor and ends up becoming famous, they’ll probably struggle with doubt and guilt, because becoming famous was not the initial intention and the celebrity image may not reflect their real personality.
Like other Judging types, INFJs are perfectionists. In our minds, nothing we do is ever as perfect as it should be. I love to write, and I do so almost every day, but I’ve only actually published maybe 1 percent of anything I’ve ever written. This is probably the hardest hurdle for INFJs to get over when it comes to IN?FJ doubt, but it’s important to learn to let go of our internal perfectionism when it comes to going after what we really want in life.
This isn’t an INFJ-specific quality. In fact, many INFJs are extremely hard workers and I definitely wouldn’t use lazy to describe them. However, sometimes when you struggle with a lot of doubt, it seems easier to just escape from the doubt by giving up completely and spending your time watching Netflix rather than pursuing your passion. All humans are guilty of this. But don’t sit around and let the doubt win. Get off your butt and show that INFJ doubt who’s boss!
Do you agree/disagree? What steps have you taken to try to get over INFJ doubt?