It is probably no surprise that as an INFJ personality type and introvert, I love to read. Nothing is better than spending the weekend curled up on the couch with a good book and warm cup of tea. I thought it would be fun to share a few of the books that have helped me in my personal development journey.
For the record, I’ve never written an easier blog post. I may make book recommendation blogs a regular thing if you guys are into that–let me know in the comments or on Twitter!
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
“Do whatever brings you to life, then. Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart.” -Elizabeth Gilbert
This book by the brilliant Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most inspirational pieces I’ve ever read. It makes you want to let go of everything you fear and jump into whatever pond your heart is leading you into, no matter how murky the water looks. Every page is like getting a supportive pep talk from your best friend. In my opinion, it’s very NF-friendly in it’s idealistic and encouraging tone. It’s written for creative types, if you’re a writer it will be right up your alley, but really it’s message is one that everyone needs to hear, again and again.
Buy it here: Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
“Many think vulnerability is weakness, but it is not. Those who refuse to be vulnerable lose the ability to understand others who are, and their fear and discomfort quickly turn into judgment and criticism.” -Brene Brown
You may have heard of Brene Brown. Thousands have seen her popular TED talks on shame and vulnerability. Brown, a self-described introvert, dives into what it means to be vulnerable and shares stories from her personal life as well as information she’s gathered from years of researching the topic. Personally, I would recommend the audiobook because Brown is one of those people whose words truly come alive when you listen to her speak them. Being vulnerable is difficult for me since I’ve spent years building up walls and haven’t always made it easy for others to take them down. This book is a great starting point for anyone willing to begin the journey to greater vulnerability.
Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by David Keirsey
“If you do not want what I want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong. Or if my beliefs are different from yours, at least pause before you set out to correct them. Or if my emotion seems less or more intense than yours, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel other than I do. Or if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, please let me be. I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up trying to change me into a copy of you.” -David Keirsey
This was the first book about personality type that I ever read and for a long time, I jokingly referred to it as my Bible because it felt like that thing held the secrets of the universe. It was a main resource for understanding personality type. I would pull it out when friends and even people I was dating would come over and read to them about their type because I wanted everyone to be as obsessed as I was. Yes, I was a sad, sad person. 😉 But many good things came into my life because of this book, so if you have any interest in deepening your understanding of personality type, this is a great place to start.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
“So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I’m still trying to figure out how that could be.” -Stephen Chbosky
The Perks of Being a Wallflower is a coming-of-age fiction piece about a quiet high school kid dealing with friends, love, and childhood trauma. As an introvert, it’s impossible not to relate to Charlie’s awkward experiences trying to make friends and find love during his freshman year. You will root for the endearing lead character and his eccentric band of friends until the very end. It’s a short and easy read full of quotes that you’ll want to add to your Pinterest board. I recommend watching the film by the same name after you read the book.
Buy it here: The Perks of Being a Wallflower
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” -Paulo Coelho
As an INFJ, discovering meaning and purpose in life is really important. So I quickly fell in love with the story of a young man searching for exactly that in The Alchemist. The boy’s journey is all too familiar to personalities that are constantly in search of something greater. The Alchemist is deep, inspiring and a good reminder of the power of perseverance and keeping yourself focused on the big picture.
Buy it here: The Alchemist