infj personality

INFJ Personality

Making up anywhere from 1 to 3 percent of the population, the INFJ personality type is considered to be the rarest of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types. For this reason, INFJs often struggle with feeling different or weird, and so they often hide large parts of their personality from others until they feel comfortable enough to reveal their inner world.

INFJ personality types are introverts and they value alone time. They love spending time with those they are close to, but need just as much time to themselves in order to recharge. Even as introverts, INFJs have a strong love for people. They genuinely care about understanding others to the point that at times it can become an obsession. Since INFJs know what it’s like to feel misunderstood, they spend a lot of time trying to dissect the personalities of others and understand their true feelings and intentions. This often leads an INFJ personality type to put the needs of others before their own. It’s important for INFJs to spend just as much time paying attention to their own wants and needs in order to live a peaceful and happy life.

Like other idealists, INFJs are imaginative, creative and dream of making the world a better place. INFJs may at first impression come across as overly agreeable, but they have strong values when it comes to helping others. People are usually shocked to see the side of the INFJ that comes out when their values are dismissed or questioned.

INFJs are known as the “counselor” type, and it is no surprise that many INFJs choose counseling or a similar field as a career choice. INFJs are one of the best personality types when it comes to helping others deal with their problems. Because of their extroverted feeling function, they are able to see an issue from the other person’s perspective but use their introverted intuition function to separate themselves from the situation and guide the person down a healthier path.

As introverts and feeling types, INFJs are great listeners and genuinely care about the concerns of others, which is a trait that makes them very appealing to others. They have to be careful to avoid emotional vampires, people who try to take advantage of the INFJs kindness and empathy. Even if it’s not their profession, INFJs often find themselves playing the “counselor” role among friends, family, coworkers, and sometimes even casual acquaintances.

INFJ personality types are perfectionists and spend a lot of time thinking about how to make themselves and others better. In relationships, they are best matched with people who share their values and strive for growth both personally and within the relationship. The ideal partner for an INFJ is someone who listens and makes effort to understand the INFJ and who also allows the INFJ to be their true selves without judgment or criticism.


  1. Yes, this sounds very much like me. I’m glad I found your blog.

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  3. So happy reading your blog. I can completely relate. I’ve struggled so long trying to understand myself. I felt very “weird” for a long time.

  4. Since I was little I found myself “weird” and felt like an “alien” in this world haha No wonder! INFJs are rare. Pretty complex too. Like a walking contradiction. I am glad I stumbled upon your blog. I can complety relate. 😊

  5. Very interesting and well explained. Thank you. This explains a lot about some of the things I have wondered about! I know I’m being vague here 🙂 but this has been very helpful.

  6. I am thoroughly enjoying your blog and find it to be both fascinating and insightful. I have long felt (since I was a young one), that I was peculiar, so it’s certainly comforting to know I’m not alone.

  7. It is such a relief to know there are others like me. It takes away a lot of the loneliness I’ve felt my whole life. I’m so glad I stumbled across this blog. I definitely want to learn more about introvert personality types to learn myself better.

  8. This describes me word-for-word. It’s so frustrating being an introverted people-person! I like people but my introvert gets in the way of interacting with people. Plus since I’m INFJ it’s hard to find someone I could really connect with anyway. *sigh*
    I was just reading an INFJ article on another blog (I think it’s called Personality Junkie) and one thing they mentioned (maybe you’ve written about it too, but I’ve only just discovered your site) is that INFJs will sometimes experience a sensation of “disembodiment” – like they’re outside of their bodies. This used to happen to me a lot. It doesn’t happen as often anymore, but I always thought it was weird. Like, I’d feel like I didn’t exist, or that I was looking at myself, rather than from myself. Strange questions would pop into my head, like “Do I even exist? Am I real?” And a realization that “I am me. This is me. I’m Kayla. Or am I Kayla? Is this all just a dream?”
    Also there have been times when I’ve had dreams that felt so real, I later wondered if they actually happened. There was one dream in particular that I literally thought had actually happened. Sometimes I’d be thinking about it as if it were a real occurrence until I’d remember it was just a dream.

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