Within the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, eight types are Judgers and eight types are Perceivers. Judger personality types like order, plans, and organization, while Perceiver personality types prefer to remain flexible, adaptable, and spontaneous. If these types don’t try to understand each other, the J and P differences can cause several issues at work, in school, and within relationships.
Judging Vs. Perceiving Personality Types
It’s pretty easy to tell the difference between Judging and Perceiving personality types. Your Judger friends are the ones who are always on time — if not early — for an event, volunteer to plan events and social outings, have everything they do on some sort of calendar or schedule, like to have plans set at least a week ahead of time, are good at meeting deadlines, and get frustrated when things don’t go according to plan. If they invite you over for dinner at 7:00 PM, it means dinner will be on the table at 7:00 PM.
Your Perceiver friends are the ones who sometimes run late, like to keep their options open — likely not having set plans until the night before or day of, are easily adaptable to changes in plans, become frustrated with a strict routine, and often procrastinate. If they invite you over for dinner at 7:00 PM, it means dinner will be on the table around 7:30 or 8:00, or just whenever, no rush!
Environment and lifestyle can shape a Judger or Perceiver to seem more like the other type, but in general, the above traits are pretty common. So how can Judgers and Perceivers live in harmony with each other without driving each other crazy?
What Judgers Want Perceivers To Know
Here are five things Judgers want Perceivers to know so that we can coexist in harmony.
1. We place a high value on being on time.
If someone is more than 15 minutes late for a meeting, we’ll probably become frustrated. But if someone is more than 30 minutes late, we’ll feel disrespected. If someone is not able to meet at the scheduled time, we prefer to know in advance. We prefer to reschedule or even plan to meet an hour later if that means avoiding waiting for someone for a long period of time.
2. Last minute changes stress us out.
If we plan an event and you RSVP to come solo, but then show up with a few guests, we’ll stress about how to accommodate the extra guests and won’t be able to enjoy ourselves until we have that figured out.
3. We like closure.
We are happiest when everything is clearly defined – whether it’s a relationship, plans for the weekend, or our role at work.
4. We are very assertive when it comes to decisiveness.
We don’t like to wait around for things to get done, so if a decision needs to be made and no one seems to care about making it, we’ll step up to the plate. This doesn’t mean we necessarily love to make decisions, but we can’t stand indecisiveness. For us, indecisiveness correlates to wasted time.
5. We do know how to have fun.
We don’t all walk around with sticks up our butts, never grinning unless everything is in order. Most Judgers can be flexible and adaptable when needed and can even do so while having a good time. As long as Perceivers can understand and acknowledge that some of their actions can bother us, and simply attempt to take these facts into consideration when working, living with, or engaging with us, then we both can live in harmony.
As an INFJ, I’d love to hear from a Perceiver regarding what Judgers can do to better work, live, and play with Perceivers. Share your advice in the comments!