how to be an infj

How To Be An INFJ Personality Type: 8 Proven Tips

Within the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) there are 16 personality types. Out of all of these types, the INFJ personality type is the rarest making up only 1-3 percent of the population. Are you wondering how to be an INFJ personality type? You’re not alone. Most people are not INFJs, although many will tell you otherwise. Even though the INFJ personality type is rare, INFJs are actually everywhere. INFJ is the most popular personality type listed in women on online dating sites. If you search the internet for information about the INFJ personality type, you’ll find a plethora of blog posts, Twitter handles, and Facebook pages for the INFJ type.

It’s cool to be an INFJ personality type. We’re the special snowflakes of the MBTI world. People love to remind us about this frequently. Many people are attracted to our rare and unique personality type and this is what makes them search how to be an INFJ. Unfortunately, not everyone can be a real INFJ personality type. However, if you took the MBTI test and didn’t score INFJ, don’t worry. You can become an INFJ, or at least get pretty good at seeming like one! Here are eight tips that will teach you how to be an INFJ.

(Note: This article is 100 percent satire. I thought it would be amusing to poke fun at my own obsession with the INFJ personality type and the fact that so many people are mistyped as INFJ. This is purely for fun and not meant to offend! If you are truly interested in learning about your personality type, I recommend taking the test from a certified MBTI practitioner.)

Take a free online personality test.

The easiest way to be an INFJ is to take a free online MBTI test. These test often mistype people and tend to have a preference for intuitive and feeling types, so there’s a chance that you can score INFJ even if you’re an ISTJ or ESTP. If you don’t get the result you want the first time, take it again! It’s free and no one will know how many times you took it. Once you’ve passed the test and have the INFJ result you can share this with other people letting them know that you’re a rare and mysterious INFJ. Some people will believe you. Most people won’t care about your newly discovered personality type. Those people aren’t worth your time.   

Write a list detailing in what ways you are similar to Dumbledore or Jesus.

If people don’t believe that you’re actually an INFJ personality type, it’s probably because you’re not very good at acting like an INFJ. All you need to do is type in “famous INFJs” into your search engine. The results will tell you that all the best people like Dumbledore and Jesus were INFJs, too. Cool. Now make a list of the ways that you are similar to these famous and accurately typed INFJs. Are you wise? Spiritual? Compassionate? Of course, you are! Once you’ve realized how similar you are to real INFJs you will start to seem more like an INFJ personality type.

Stare into the soul of everyone you meet.

INFJs can see into people’s souls. If you want to be an INFJ you need to master this ability. When you meet someone new, stare deeply into their eyes in silence until you can see their soul. This may take awhile the first couple of times, especially if you’re not actually an INFJ. But don’t let that stop you. Keep staring at them. Even if they tell you to stop. Don’t give up. You must become an INFJ.

Talk about how no one understands you.

You know you’re a real INFJ if it feels like no one understands you and you’re basically an alien from another planet. You should be journaling about this on Tumblr every day if you want to be the best INFJ you can be. Share memes about how your mind is like a black hole of isolation. If someone asks you what that means, say, “You wouldn’t understand. #INFJproblems”. Make sure to also include a smiling emoji because INFJs don’t like to be mean!

Predict the future.

If you want to be an INFJ the most important thing you can do is be psychic. See into the future using your mind or a globe like fortune tellers have. Subtly let other people know your prophecies, but don’t be too obvious about it. INFJs don’t like to make people uncomfortable. Be mysterious, but also uncertain. Say things like, “I have a feeling that it may not be a great idea” or “I feel like something really terrible is going to happen to you but maybe not, what do I know?”

Put INFJ in your Twitter name.

If you have “INFJ” as part of your name on Twitter, people will certainly believe that you are a real INFJ personality type. If you’re not quite ready for your INFJ personality type to take over your entire identity, you can also just add it somewhere in your bio. That way you can tell the world “I’m an INFJ” without telling the world “I’M AN INFJ.” Although the latter is preferred.

Be proud to be an INFJ.

Why stop at Twitter? Put INFJ in your online dating profile. Put INFJ on your resume. Start a blog about being an INFJ. Officially change your name to INFJ [insert your name here]. Tattoo “I’m an INFJ” on your forehead. Don’t let anything stop you from sharing your INFJ personality type with the world. Casually slip into conversation your preference for Introverted Intuition, the most complex of the eight cognitive functions. This is a terrific transition topic to ease into a conversation about being an INFJ with friends and complete strangers.

Door slam the haters.

If someone still doesn’t believe you’re a real INFJ personality type after all your hard work, door slam them! INFJs do this all the time. By door slamming the haters, you kill two birds with one stone. You don’t have to listen to people calmly explain that you might lead with Introverted Sensing or whatever AND you get to do a stereotypical INFJ thing. Awesome!

Wow. You’re actually an INFJ now aren’t you? Who did you even use to be? Can you remember? Now that your entire life has been absorbed by a personality test result, you can finally begin living as the person you were never meant to be, but nevertheless are. Congratulations!

Megan is an introvert and INFJ personality type who enjoys reading, researching, and writing about personality psychology and human behavior. As the founder of this blog, Megan wants to help other INFJs better understand their personality to improve their personal and professional lives.


  1. I get this was supposed to be satirical in some way, but it came off really twee.

  2. Bahaha. Definitely something only an INFJ would get. Good stuff!

  3. Hahahahahah… that totally cracked me up. Also we don’t like to be mean when people aren’t mean, but if we have to be, then it’s more then fun to give it back. 🙂 Ps I always end my messages with :). ;p

  4. Excellent this is empowering stuff. INFJ guy here trying to figure how to live in the middle of a metropolis

  5. I laughed out loud. LOVED this post. The INFJ debris field of misinformation drives me bonkers.

    One of my fav quotes from other INFJ’s.

    ‘An INFJ is a extremely loving, caring, forgiving, tolerating selfless, trust worthy yet a super genius with elderly wisdom and patience and highly functional 6th sense. (All at once)’

    I’d love to see more on this subject.

  6. This is so funny! …. and needed!

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